When planning a scattering ceremony, consider that in some ways, scattering cremated remains is like lowering a casket into the ground at a cemetery, in that you are laying your loved one to rest. One difference is that you most likely won’t have a minister or officiant there to guide you through the process. It is a unique moment for your family that you will want to spend some time planning.

It is also best to be prepared for certain practical aspects of the process, and to help other family members learn what to expect. Take a look at our article on what to expect while scattering.

Before the scattering, consider asking a family member to speak a few words, or lead a prayer. You might have everyone share a story, a memory or a goodbye wish. Music is very appropriate to the occasion, and you could play music on a portable device or have a musician play or sing live.

When it is time to scatter the remains, find a sheltered area away from the wind, hold the urn low to the ground and pour out a small amount at a time. Cremated remains are very lightweight and will blow freely in even the slightest breeze. It is best to do this low to the ground so they do not blow back onto you or other onlookers. Typically, there will be plenty for several family members or friends to take turns scattering, if they wish.

Realize that not everyone in your family may be completely comfortable with the concept of scattering. Some may want to participate, while others may prefer to wait at a distance.


Afterwards, each guest could lay a flower at the site of the scattering. This is a beautiful way to mark the spot. Consider adjourning to a local restaurant for an extended time of reminiscing and supporting each other.

We hope that this information gives you some ideas for planning a scattering ceremony. Please call us if you have any questions; we are here to help.